Many years ago, when Frank was a toddler and we were at loggerheads, I had to scour a different set of parenting books than the ones which had helped me with Molly. I was looking for tips on how to remain sane. (Whether I won that battle is not for me to decide, nor within the scope of this blog post.)
One of those books was Raising Your Spirited Child: a Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. You know, I didn’t read more than fifty pages before getting what I required:
- I needed to reframe how I saw my kid, to understand at a visceral level how the very qualities challenging me in the present were strengths, if properly harnessed.
- I had to drop any aspect of blame or victimhood, for to a large degree, temperament is genetic. In other words, this wasn’t transient. I better just get on with the job of learning coping skills.
- I had to acknowledge my role as the genetic donor. Yes, I’m sure this will shock you, but Frank and I clashed because we were two eggs in the same carton.
Intensity — I haz it. I don’t seem to have mellowed much with “maturity”, either.
What does this have to do with writing?
Well, I’m whispering this, so as not to agitate my Muse, but I’ve fallen back in love with my work-in-progress. It’s possible it’s both working and progressing, finally, after much heartache; after months of losing my characters’ voices and the story and thinking I’d never get them back.
I’m crushing on my heroine and hope to ride this wave as long as possible. I want to do right by her.
All this is a long way of saying that because I’m not an easy-going person like my husband — because I do everything I take on with intensity (no claim to excellence here) — I’m modifying my schedule here at Tartitude. I’m going to take a page from my two favorite bloggers — Jennifer Crusie and Joshilyn Jackson — and blog when I’m able. It’s possible that will continue to be three times a week, unlikely to be less than weekly. But the times? They are a-callin’ for some flexibility on my part. I would have to be nuts not to listen.
So tell me, if you have a blog, have you needed to alter your schedule to accommodate your fiction? What do you think is the optimal frequency for a writer’s blog anyway?